FLASHBACK FRIDAY AUGUST 25, 1992 – DESCRIPTION
FBF 8/25/92
Snapped this of hubby when he asked me to marry him. The biggest decision of my life, and not once in 31 years have I ever considered it anything but the right one.
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THE STORY
This is a day 2 post following my TBT post yesterday. I mentioned a picture of him actually asking me to marry him. It was funny though, the picture was an accident in timing. This wasn’t something I intended to catch on camera. I always wonder if he remembers it much differently than me, maybe I will ask him after this post goes up.
We were sitting on the couch, the hubby had been talking with me and had been asking me leading questions. I was a dumbass 20 year old who wasn’t sure which way was up so I didn’t catch it (much like when he first got me to date him).
We had broken up for six months and had only been back together a couple months at most. I had never even considered he would ask me to marry him. When we first got together, while I was still an asshole and we hadn’t figured out how to be best friends and be romantic, I had asked him to marry me and he had turned me down. I don’t even think it was a no to me, but rather to the whole idea of being married, and honestly it was the right choice.
So I had been taking photos of him all day, just enjoying being with him when he leaned over and asked if I would marry him. I don’t even remember taking the photo, I just felt myself freeze on the other end. It only took me a few seconds at most to say yes of course, but it was one of those movie scenes where everything slowed down to a crawl for me.
One other funny thing I remember, I was told we needed to buy big rings for each other by several couples to show how much we loved each other. We bought each other $20 silver bands from the Silver Source in the mall and never even had engagement rings.
Funny enough same couples sort of derided the fact that our wedding was done by a judge, and they spent a lot of money on theirs. Now I look back, 31 years later and we are the only couple still together that was involved in those conversations, and I can’t say there isn’t a bit of, “bitch we knew what we needed to do” in my head about that.
Once again I love you garden rat. I love you more than anything, no matter what.
Forever and Always ❤